Have you ever felt stuck in your relationships, career, beliefs or your life? It's that feeling of moving through molasses, spinning your wheels or repeating the same thing day after day. Many of my clients come to me when they are feeling this way, as if there must be something more to their lives, something they're missing, something that would give them a sense of purpose and joy. What I've noticed over the years is how many people are willing to make themselves wrong for these feelings of stuck-ness, as if they are somehow deficient, broken or fundamentally flawed for wanting more than they have and not knowing how to attain it. I'd like to offer a reframe from the energy of being stuck into the energy of being held.
What if you are not stuck, what if you are merely being held in place until such time as everything is aligned, if you will, for your next evolutionary leap forward? What if being held in place is a loving experience as your higher self, God, Goddess or whomever looks out for you, does the work behind the scenes to bring everything into focus? Could you breath into this? Would you be willing to allow yourself to reside in being-on-hold, instead of fretting about feeling stuck?
I've had my share of feeling like I'm spinning my wheels, as though each step forward is two steps back. What I've learned is that my life flows with much more ease when I stop trying to control the outcome but instead give myself time and space to become very clear on what I need and want, in the energy of being held; held in the belief in Divine Timing. Divine Timing is the second part of the belief that all things happen with reason and purpose, in and of their own time. When I push against Divine Timing, stop listening to my intuition on something in my life, I can easily fall into those old feelings of stuck-ness. Feeling stuck is simply the result of trying to exert control over something I have no control over.
There is an element of faith to the process of changing your mind from feeling stuck to feeling held; faith that there is someone or something external to yourself that cares enough about you to hold you in your intention to find that which is missing from your life. You are still an active participant in the unfolding of your life. I find that when I allow myself to be held I slow down, I fret less, I feel more at peace and it's much easier to hear my own wisdom, intuition and knowing. It then becomes easier to trust my choices and move forward into appropriate action; into my next evolutionary leap forward along my path to living my life on purpose and with reason. Lovingly held, not brokenly stuck!