...The act of doing nothing is really quite something! We live in a culture of doing. We are on constant full throttle, multitasking, carrying on four different conversations at once, thoughts flying a hundred miles an hour. And all this busyness is a wonderful coping mechanism for not dealing with or looking at the things in our lives that need shifting. I hear so often from clients and students that they are unable to meditate, or slow down long enough to hear their Inner Wisdom. Yet they are determined to develop their intuition and psychic abilities, hoping to not have to slow down to do it.
I know this challenge. I could blame it on being a Gemini – busy mind in many places – or on having two kids, an expanding business, a home and dog – and social media (!) and all of these would be great excuses. Except they are not. Finding value in the time you take for yourself is what will ultimately create the shift from Busy to Balanced.
A few years ago I was sitting in the setting sun on my deck at the family cottage on Mayne Island, feeling guilty that I wasn't doing anything. Surely there was something I could be doing! Wasn't I wasting time just sitting there? And then I heard this very clear, very loud voice..."The act of doing nothing, is really quite something." I saw in my mind's eye the image of a Buddhist monk, resplendent in red robes, with a twinkle in his eye. I was floored, stunned, and immobilized. I was being given permission to simply sit, to watch the birds, the tides, to observe the way the sun sparkled on the water, to breathe the air filled with the smells of trees and dirt and wild flowers. Tears flowed as I allowed myself, possibly for the first time, to just sit, in consciousness and be; be mindful, be joyful, be present, be me.
Over the past decade of tremendous growth, both personally and professionally, I have needed to remind myself of that day and the message I received. I am the sort to get ahead of myself with great ideas of new healing products or services I can offer my clients. I'm always searching for different tools and techniques that I can learn and pass on. When my daughter commented recently that I was working too hard and that she really wanted to spend some time with me, without my cell phone or computer or driving around with me on errands for work, I was struck by her comment. And in that moment I remembered, "The act of doing nothing is really quite something!"
So I stopped for a while and we walked and talked and I was able to recenter, re-group and relax. I was able, with her gentle reminder, to allow the doing of nothing in particular to be the most important thing that day. And what a day it was!