"...two sides to a story." ~ You, Me, Life, Dreams The Workbook ~
So many times when sharing stories (particularly of past loves), it is easy to place ourselves in a "victim" space. We reflect back and remember how we felt at the time. However, also in that reflection we can have something magical happen. We can remember the fonder side of our pain; or the follies of our own thoughts.
I certainly have had enough varied experiences with relationships. My codes show that I tend to draw in those that will burn me in the long run. However, no matter what our patterns are or the codes that we are born with, it is up to us how we want to experience the relationship; or anything for that matter.
I can look back now and admit that I was high maintenance, high drama, irritating, and annoying to be with. However, in the midst of it all, I am sure I thought I was the most wonderful partner to be with. Yet, there are always two sides to every story; and I have learned many more than that.
Yes, there is each person's view of what is happening, there is what is really happening, there is the perspective of friends and family; and then there are our reflections and how we remember them, which is usually not what they actually were. One of the key reasons on this, is because our emotions in the moment and in reflection tend to shape and influence how we see things. All of those unspoken thoughts and feelings lead us to see things through those eyes.